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I coach, consult, educate, and mentor stressed, overwhelmed, and fed-up parents to restore difficult relationships with their children, so that they, as a family, can move on to live happy and fulfilling lives.
In helping hundreds and hundreds of people over the past 30 plus years piece together their own life’s jigsaw puzzle, I have created my own unique coaching blueprint that enables parents to make sense of themselves and their children through a new lens with positive, long-lasting and life-changing results.
I started work as a youth worker back in the late 80’s. From there I transitioned to the education system where I worked with youth from grades 7-11 (we finish in grade 11 in the U.K.) that struggled with emotional and behavioural problems. These youth had been permanently excluded from the mainstream educational system. I noticed a large percentage of those youth were in trouble or starting to get into trouble with the law.
After the education system, Probation was on my radar in the early 2000’s. I completed a degree and became a Probation Officer (P.O.) – much like your probation and parole officers in Canada. I worked with medium to very high risk of harm offenders (i.e. sex offenders, murderers, armed robbers and domestic violence). In my role as a P.O. I began to get really curious about what had happened in that person’s life that led them to make the decisions that ultimately led them to the criminal justice system. This curiosity never left me.
In 2007 my family immigrated to Alberta, Canada. I worked for the Women’s Outreach, setting up a “Safe Visitation Program” for the high risk families involved with Child and Family Services.
After the Women’s Outreach, the position I secured in 2008 was as a Parent Consultant. Here I learnt all about the developmental paradigm, emotion coaching, attachment and relationship, frustration, tears and tantrums and a bazillion other things besides. In that role I developed a unique approach of communicating with families by coaching, consulting, educating and mentoring them, having a lot of success.
In 2009, I experienced an unexpected personal trauma. That experience sent me down a path of personal development, a journey I was not aware I needed. Now, when I reflect back, I am very grateful for that traumatic event, as I would not be the person I am today were it not for that experience. For me personally, I say “…that event was the worst thing I had expereinced but the best thing that could have happened for me”. Talk about a “phoenix rising from the ashes…”
My career and training as a Parent Consultant, along with my personal development journey really assisted me to navigate the clients in my own private practice which I set up in 2012, where I trained and qualified to become a clinical counsellor along side my job as a Parent Consultant. As a registered clinical counsellor (MPCC #3129), I have to attend up-to-date training every year to retain my registration. This is where my journey took me down the path of trauma, neuroscience, neurobiology, emotional intelligence etc.
With a multitude of training, workshops, work experience, and qualifications completed in a variety of modalities for my own career and personal development, it enabled me to spend over a decade piecing together my own childhood, how I was raised, how I messed up in certain areas raising my daughter, and how my past had inadvertently impacted my relationships both personally and professionally.
As a result, I’ve been able to reflect; peel and expose many layers of my onion, and gain insights about myself that have allowed me to emotionally develop and grow as a person, and, more importantly, I now get to share the information that has taken years to accumulate with my clients in a simple, fun, informative, and intuitive way.
What I came to realise in piecing together my life from a place of childhood, teenager, sister, wife and mother was how everything was ‘connected’ from the ground up; from our very early experiences, right through to the present day. Hence the birth of “It’s All Connected”. As someone that loves being outside, I found utilising nature a great way to explain attachment from the root system up – hence my logo.
Over the decades, six core values have evolved. The core values are areas I have in my mind when working with my clients.
They spell UPCASE. Every Parent benefits from having the following:
- Self Awareness
All six core values are strengths, insights, and skills, I believe you as a parent need to successfully navigate within the realm of parenting to make sense of yourself and your children from the inside out.
In order to teach your children about emotions, how to regulate, handle life’s inevitable disappointments, and how to respond appropriately without being triggered yourself, or taking your child’s behaviours personally, you’ll need to have worked on all of these values yourself.
As a parent, you can only support and teach your child about emotions and coping skills to the level you have reached within yourself.